Changing Views with the Healing Journey

I remember years ago thinking people who could forgive a monster capable of harm, an abuser, rapist, a bad person– they must be nuts.  I could not fathom even the thought.  Forgiveness was a swear word.  Now, I’m feeling a shift.  I fully recognize I may still have days or weeks that I am angry or bitter but I’m moving toward choosing peace.

My definition for FORGIVENESS is to let go of bitterness toward someone who hurt you and give less thought to that which makes you focus on the negative.  My definition does not include forgetting, condoning, or not holding someone accountable.  I choose to wake up in the morning and not have anger, hurt, sadness, disgust, and fear rule over my day. I have found it unhelpful to consider a whimsical definition or one that has a hard-line rule that in order to heal you MUST forgive.

This post is an excerpt from my recent blog post which you can find here:

http://wp.me/p7LcIw-aP

Everyone is different and this doesn’t make it right or wrong within the context of healing trauma, it’s just worth thinking about.

– Jen

 

 

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