Laughing about rape (not what you think)
There is no pity. You've both survived, you know the other is okay (or is going to be okay). You can just let go, just be yourself. There's no need to worry about how this impacting them, whether you are burdening them.
And then you find yourselves laughing about it. Wait, WHAT? No, of course it is not funny. But being able to roll your eyes with someone over ignorant comments, completely disregarding any obligation to be sensitive or politically correct – that's when you know you're not alone. That's taking back control over your experience.