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Nov 14

Julia’s Story: Psychologist advice

It took me 14 years to allow this memory to become a conscious awareness in my thoughts.

I’m sure we’ve all put x amount of efforts into trying to “forget”, or to push the thought away or to find something to do to keep the mind busy just so we don’t have to think about it anymore.

And I’m sure we’ve all realized that trying to push it away doesn’t stop the nightmares, anxiety, depressions, etc… It doesn’t stop because it doesn’t want to be stopped. It doesn’t want to be pushed away. It wants to be heard, it wants attention, it wants recognition, maybe even pity. It wants out. And it won’t stop until you learn a way to deal with it. And that’s okay.

We all suffered and wonder “isn’t this enough suffering? When does it stop?”
…..what is this IT that we all wonder about?

could “IT” be symptoms, fear, anger, no self value,…etc?

And I believe that’s where we all get caught up the most. Instead of asking “When does it stop?” try to ask yourself “When do I stop?”.

Time won’t heal those wounds. Only you can heal your wounds. Nothing can do this for you. No one else can do it for you. All you need is yourself. You are only a victim if you allow yourself to be one. The Ego feeds of negativity and if negativity is all it gets, it resolves in…negativity…

But wait? Don’t we all “just” want to be happy? Then here’s my advice: Get out of this victim role.

You have suffered enough. Don’t allow your Ego to bring your mind down anymore and there are ways to do this. The change isn’t coming over night, not in a week but it’s a progress and slowly you notice a change. You enjoy the little things again. You see beauty where no one else can see it. Your body can rest and be at peace when you decide to. Your mind can be at piece and open to look forward. Mistakes you made won’t matter anymore.

My name is Julia, I was raped at the age of 14. I found out I was pregnant on the day I lost the baby at 14.
I studied Psychology, went to therapy and nothing seemed to help. Until I realized that this one is on me. So I fought and today, I am happier than I’ve ever been. I am starting an organization and my goal is to help you bring the best out of you. Sharing this is my first step to get things started.

If you need advice, don’t hesitate to reach out. I know how you feel.

You can follow me on Instagram at: jujupiedmont

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