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Name: Jen
Date registered: June 6, 2017


My name is Jen. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and rape. But that wasn’t something I chose to voice openly until this year; I had to do something to move forward so I called my abuser, I called him out, It makes people uncomfortable, so some will choose to pretend nothing happened, but I know my truth. I won’t take the blame any longer because the shame is not mine to bear. I am 37 and have spent more than 20 years pretending nothing bad happened. I survived ten years of childhood sexual abuse, non-consentual sexual acts/ritual abuse, emotional/psychologiocal and physical abuse and that was NOT my fault. . I am so much more than a survivor! I am a warrior and my personal challenge is to be brave and show up– to use my voice so others know they are not alone. To anyone who is seeking support, please know that you are not alone. I believe you and I’m so sorry someone hurt you. You are ENOUGH. That’s what I’m striving to know for myself from deep within my soul.

Latest posts

  1. Shame and Abuse — July 30, 2017
  2. Growing My Safety Net — June 24, 2017
  3. Changing Views with the Healing Journey — June 8, 2017

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Jul 30

Shame and Abuse

Have you ever had a shame attack?

This morning I had one of ‘those’ starts….

I slept through my alarm at 5:13am due to a restless night and bad dreams, no fun. This always feels like an earthquake drill. I hate being late and it’s just not my M.O. Sorry Sandi.

I arrived late to …

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Jun 24

Growing My Safety Net

I currently consider myself well into my recovery journey. This is a far away place from where I was emotionally and mentally 5 years ago and really even one year ago when I started more intensive therapy.  I had never verbalized many of the atrocities that happened to me.  It was as though the …

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Jun 08

Changing Views with the Healing Journey

I remember years ago thinking people who could forgive a monster capable of harm, an abuser, rapist, a bad person– they must be nuts.  I could not fathom even the thought.  Forgiveness was a swear word.  Now, I’m feeling a shift.  I fully recognize I may still have days or weeks that I am angry …

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