A 19 Year Old College Student’s Story: My Best Friend Raped Me

A 19 Year Old College Student’s Story: My Best Friend Raped Me

I had to go work that morning, and I left feeling numb. I couldn’t even think. How was I supposed to think? That whole day was filled with shock and sickness. The day after that I realized what happened, I was drugged and raped by someone I thought I could trust.

Losing my voice

Losing my voice

I've spent the last 7 months finding my voice as a survivor of sexual assault, as a feminist, as an activist – where was my voice when I needed it? I've healed and I've grown and I've come a long way, I know I have. I thought I'd come further than this but last night I learned I'm still powerless. I wasn't drunk or incapacitated. I wasn't in a dark alley, alone and vulnerable. I was in a crowded bar in my own city, with friends… and I couldn't say anything.

The No One Told Me Series: Secondary Trauma

The No One Told Me Series: Secondary Trauma

I wrote earlier about What to Do When You Don’t Recognize Yourself in the Mirror, and promised to write about more of the nuanced things that self-help books and articles don’t really teach you. Well, I stumbled across another thing

What happens to everyone else?

When I got assaulted I was very vocal about the event, in a timid way however still very vocal. I told my family less then a week after it happened and my sister was one of the first people I

Jean-Paul Bédard’s Story: A Culture of Silence

You’re dirty. You’re disgusting. No one is going to want you now. It’s your fault. You shouldn’t have been there in the first place. You’re an idiot. Why didn’t you fight back? Maybe it wasn’t as bad as you think. Whatever you do, don’t tell anyone what happened.

19 Year Old College Student’s Story: I Asked for It

19 Year Old College Student’s Story: I Asked for It

Next morning he bought us all croissants and took us all for breakfast, he paid for mine and then he walked me to my train to go home. His only words were "Last night was fun huh?" I say "Um… You did me… Without protection…" I kinda giggled a bit, nervously and he replied with "Yeah but whatever, no biggie. Plus, you were the one wiggling your butt and asking for it, dirty little girl!" after a wink… I got on my train, got home, told my mother what happened and she said "Well, you know what you were going to London for!"

Savannah Badalich: Changing the Discussion on Sexual Assault

Savannah Badalich: Changing the Discussion on Sexual Assault

I read an article in the Washington Post that really stuck out to me. It can be found here. The article is about Savannah Badalich, who was sexually assaulted by a friend at a student government conference two weeks into her